Welcome to my first post of 2018! It is officially no longer the year I launched Grace and Lipstick and what a journey it has been. For those of you who take the time to read my blog and especially those who share my posts I want to thank you so much for your support! It really means the absolute world to me. I cannot even explain the way it feels when someone mentions my blog out of nowhere and says they read my posts. SO THANK YOU!!! I’m eager to get this years posts out to you and I plan to up the amount of content I get out to you monthly. I’m not making any commitments because I don’t have that stable of a schedule yet but what I can say is that the intent is definitely there! Something I am realizing, after an immense amount of self-reflection over the past week, is that although we are in a new year, I am still struggling with the same fear.
My emotions have been a rollercoaster as we enter into a fresh new year in our world. There are moments where I am optimistic, excited, and ready to make positive changes in my life and move forward. Then there are combative feelings of fear, doubt, and negativity. I am finding myself battling between my child and adult minds.
The Child Mind
My child mind is ready to hit the ground running. Go after every goal and ambition head on and full force. I have many goals I have set forth for this year.
- Pay off my student loans
- Save money
- Move out on my own
- Further my venture into the business of blogging
- Be more active
- Spend more time outside
- Travel to visit friends
- Try new things
- Meet new people
All of these are positive and adventurous things that will ultimately better my life. I am so excited and eager to do these things and my child mind wants to take immediate action. However, a few of these things are counterintuitive, cost money, take time to make happen, and require bravery.
The Adult Mind
That is where my adult mind comes in. The one that tells me to be more realistic, take things slowly, and tackle one thing at a time. When things get stressful or new bills or expenses kick in my adult mind has a tendency to take over. This can present itself in many different ways but one example would be that I halt all spending and commitments. So all those ambitions I had listed before, get put on hold. This is not inherently a negative thing. Pushing pause on making plans that require money or purchasing new things will allow me to handle my financial responsibilities, which is a good thing.
The hard part is that now I have all of these ambitions and goals that I know I want and I know will better my life, but I can’t yet go for them. My child mind is excited and eager and ready to roll. My adult mind is putting everything on hold and pushing the brakes. This is where fear and doubt come in.
Living a Fearless Life With More Faith
I’ve been reading a book called Counterfeit Comforts by Robia Scott. One morning as I sat at the table and was reading, I felt God reveal to me that I am still allowing fear to rule my life. I am letting my adult mind take over and instill fear about the future and worry about where I am at. Instead, God wants us to live with a child-like faith. A faith that is confident and secure. Easier said than done, right?
Being able to identify the areas of fear in my life has been liberating. Admitting that you are struggling is the first step to overcoming your struggle. I want to be more fearless and live my life more ruled by faith. I’ve even been considering getting a tattoo of the word fearless as I want to constantly be reminded to be brave and not let fear dictate my life.
New Year; Less Fear
One area of fear that God revealed to me while reading Counterfeit Comforts was the fear of giving up my cell phone. If you’ve been reading my posts for a while now you may remember me mentioning this here. Coincidentally it was another post where I was confronting and acknowledging my fear. As the months have rolled by, here we are about 5 months later and I have still yet to give up my cell phone for a week. It is more of the principle than the actual act. Realistically, will giving up the use of my cell phone for a week do much more than making it harder to communicate? No. It is just a cell phone.
However, I have still managed to work up a decent amount of fear, whether it be unconsciously or not. For me fear can come out in the form of excuses. It’s never a direct admission. I need my phone for work, I have plans coming up and need to communicate, what if I need to call someone while out and about? The list can go on forever and while some may be valid the real reason behind it is fear. That is going to be a goal for me in the year 2018. I will [AT SOME POINT] turn off my phone for one week. Even more motivation to get this done is that I plan to do a post on the entire experience and hopefully even make a vlog of my week. That way I can really display and see just how much of a difference it makes in my daily life and mood. Is that something you would be interested to see? If so, leave a comment or share this post to Pinterest or Facebook so I know.
Look For Something Good in Every Day
How do we get past our fear in order to move forward and live our lives in faith? Well one way I plan to tackle my fear is to set time apart every day to sit still and be with God. This can present itself in a myriad of ways. It can be in the obvious way of praying, journaling, or reading my Bible. I can do it while I walk the dog, listening to music, while I drive, or while I shower. Wherever I am I want make a conscious decision to take a few minutes and just BE. More importantly I want to listen. If we are so busy living our lives and filling every moment with distraction, we are going to miss it.
Another fun thing I’ve done in the past that I plan to do even better this year is keep track of all the good things that happen in life and put them in a memory jar. I’ve done this for past New Year’s Eves but usually only keep up for a month or two. This year I put a reminder in my phone so that once a week I take the time to write down a few positive things or things that made me smile. By focusing on the positives in life rather than the negatives, I believe overall I will naturally be less fearful.
Let’s Let Go of Fear
Where are some areas in your life that you could be more fearless in? Is there something that came to mind while you were reading this post that maybe you didn’t realize you weren’t doing because of fear? Let’s not let fear be a factor this year! Take a chance, make a move, and start walking in faith because that is what life is about! If you feel open to it leave a comment of one thing you can work on being less fearful about. We can all be there for each other and support one another as we venture into this new fearless year of 2018. I have a feeling that it is going to be a good year filled with positive change. Thanks for reading.
The Beauty Edit
For those of you who come to Grace and Lipstick looking for beauty I wanted to make sure and give you the details of this look. There are a few standout products that I wanted to make sure to share with you.
I just think this New Years Eve manicure is spot on. I’m not always into the super glittery and dramatic nail designs. However, I haven’t yet gotten sick of these and that is a testament to how awesome these are! Of course, I brought my KL Polish to the nail salon in the shade Casino Night. My manicurist waits for the KL Polish to dry and then applies a base coat and top coat of clear gel polish to ensure these last between visits.
Pores and Oil Be Gone!
I wanted to make sure and tell you about this miracle blotting powder by Kat Von D. When I first bought this I would use it to set my foundation with a big fluffy brush. To be honest, I wasn’t initially impressed. However! Once I put it into my purse with the fluff pad that came in the compact, I finally realized its fullest potential. If I ever notice that my t-zone is starting to get oily or if my pores are having a bad day and just look huge, Ill grab this miraculous compact. I take the application pad, dip it into the powder, and press it over my face. It is basically FaceTune in real life and all of your pores and fine lines disappear. Its magical.
The Dry Shampoo of All Dry Shampoos
I know i’ve talked about this before, in more than one post [here] [here] and [here] but this remains to be my holy grail dry shampoo. I don’t think I could live without it! This Blow Pro Faux Dry dry shampoo does the best job at keeping oily hair at bay. It is scent-less and doesn’t make my roots feel stiff or dirty. Using this dry shampoo is the closest I can get to clean feeling hair without actually shampooing.
New Find–> Texturizing Spray
If you’ve always wondered how the girls on Instagram get their perfectly undone causal beachy waves, i’ve figured it out! Texturzing Spray! When I was at the Cosmetologist store checking out, I noticed that Paul Mitchell has a texture hairspray. Which I never knew! So I was so excited they had a sample size that I could test out. This Invisiblewear Undone Texture Hairspray is the perfect product to spray at your roots and it smells amazing! It gives you volume and adds a bit of grit to your hair that embodies a natural beachy wave.